2021.10.23 05:29 lunawaffles Terrified of angry people even when they’re in the wrong
So I get scared out of my mind when people are angry at me even when they’re being a total dick, as well as situations when they understandably should be and only a little angry. I’ll give some situations where I’m probably over reacting.
As a result I am scared of a lot of human interactions and only have friends who are patient. Most people seem to give me anxiety.
Just to give some context I’ll talk about my family. So my dad’s always been an angry person. I remember putting two pegs on my clothes instead of one and he got so angry about me not being efficient with the hanging of my laundry. He got so angry he started coughing and throwing things.
There was a time I booked a trip for my family and my dad had a great time but the second place was in a big city and he got really angry about how it was more expensive yet smaller it was even though I researched for a long time and that’s just what the prices are in the centre of the city near the attractions. Initially I went numb and don’t react, as with most situations even now. However he brought it up continuously for 3 days. Like saying what the fuck was this fucking idiot thinking when he made his Airbnb so small? The fucking dining table hardly fits 2 dishes! I finally cracked and started crying alone in the bathroom but they could hear me. My dad then told my mum I’ve got some serious issues, he wasn’t even ranting or telling ME off yet I take everything so personally
Another time my friend came over to visit and she brought some food over because it was sudden. He was humiliated because we didn’t prepare anything special. Then Mum told him off and said it’s pretty normal for people to share food, especially people like my friend who goes to church regularly. He got really angry and started yelling at my mum. I told my dad he doesn’t need to worry so much. He then yelled at me. What? What the fuck do you want from me? Fuck off! I then went into my room and cried while I overheard my dad telling my mum I was over reacting. This was when I was 21 so I wasn’t young but ultimately lead to me moving out.
I know he has high blood pressure and has been in hospital a few times due to it, so I don’t want to aggravate him further so I try my best to have no emotions.
Fast forward, I’m now 25 and still have a lot of anxiety dealing with angry people or offending unreasonable people.
For example I have this manager who exploded at me for not briefing someone on something she never told me to brief her on. And then she got angry at me for not preparing for a meeting she was running but moved earlier. Every other week there’d be something I didn’t do. The first time I went outside and had a big break down and she has been softer since but I am constantly scared out of my mind in the office.
There was another time when she asked me to work on the weekend for an urgent deadline however I couldn’t do it because I had wisdom tooth surgery that weekend which I booked months in advance. She kept telling me she was disappointed over and over again. Rationally it is her problem of course but I don’t know why it still affects me so much.
Another situation was when a real estate agent told me off for having a bad attitude when I pointed out the the location of a rental was completely different to advertised and it was wasting out time not revealing it until we went there. I was really angry but also anxious and scared at the same time and my body froze. Rationally I will never see him again. Why did I get so clammed up?
This morning I was 10 mins late to a doctors appointment. He looked very stressed when I saw him briefly at the reception. I know he’s probably busy as they just reopened after COVID but I felt like I may have offend him. The receptionist said the doctor doesn’t rush any appointments so he doesn’t take late patients. I know it was out of my control but I feel really scared even seeing the doctor was somewhat frustrated.
I know people are probably going to ask why I feel scared. I’m not sure. Over time I learnt I wasn’t responsible for others feelings etc but I have trouble overcoming the scared and frozen response.
The people that don’t know me well think I’m calm, cool and collected. Maybe even a bit detached and uncaring in these situations although normally I’m very warm. I feel like I give the complete opposite impression of what’s going on internally so in my current life people that get angry at me never realise how much it hurts me. I’m almost always trying not to offend or upset others. Is there anyone else that’s anxious and scared most of the time but get mistaken for detached and uncaring?!
Just looking to see what a third person would see and how a person without anxiety may react in these situations. What’s actually happening to me? Why do I react so strongly even if it is irrational?
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2021.10.23 05:29 AndiPando Curious about Holidays
I'm curious as to how many of your families had/have Christmas dinner on Christmas Day (but it's just a day off and there's nothing pagan about turkey) or New Year's Eve parties without the countdown?
It was a pretty common thing in my family
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A friend of mine is staying the night, and I really love her, she's a great friend! She's stayed the night before, but oh my GOD is she selfish sometimes. Last time she stayed over, we slept in the living room and used the pull out couch. Now I have 2 anti-social cats so we stayed in my room to avoid stressing them out. We got in my bed and she slept, I suffered. I was pushed against the damn wall the entire sleep. It's 4:25am as I'm writing this, it was 11:08pm when we got into bed. I didn't even have the space to lay on my back or stomach, I couldn't even roll over. At around 3:30am, I woke up and sook after, she moved CLOSER TO ME!!!! I told her to back tf up but she said she would fall off. She was lying, I know because I sat up and checked. I called her out and she moved like a cm away. I just slipped out of bed and I may go sleep on the couch with my kitties. My shoulder hurts, my hip hurts, I feel so stiff, I am NOT okay 😭
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2021.10.23 05:29 Rbeanos How can I be less clingy to my girlfriend?
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